Am I a sex addict? Here are eight signs and symptoms of sex addiction

The spotlight has been on actor Will Smith and his wife Jada Pinkett Smith this week following the Oscars row, which saw the Men In Black star slap host Chris Rock.

By Darren Burke
Monday, 4th April 2022, 3:44 pm

The couple’s relationship has been under the microscope and Pinkett Smith shocked some fans by confessing she once had a sex addiction.

Mrs Smith isn’t the only celeb who has confessed to having sex addiction. A-list stars including Kanye West and Tiger Woods are amongst many others who have openly spoken about their inability to control their sexual urges.

The team of addiction specialists at private rehab clinic Delamere have revealed the tell-tale signs that a person has gone beyond the threshold of what is considered a ‘healthy’ sexual appetite.

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Are you a sex addict? Here are the signs

Obsessively thinking about sex

Persistent and overwhelming thoughts of sex to the extent that a sex addict will have difficulty concentrating on anything else. These obsessive thoughts are only relieved (albeit very temporary) by engaging in the sexual act they are obsessing over.

The compulsion to engage in sex

A sex addicts brain compels them to engage in sex, even when there is a high probability of negative consequences. The compulsion to engage in sex will also disrupt other areas of a sex addicts life.

Spending excessive time engaging in sex

A sex addicts dependence on sex will disrupt relationships, work or education, finances, personal health and mental wellbeing. They may miss necessary appointments, neglect their responsibilities and personal relationships to engage in sex.

Loss of control around sex

A sex addicts behaviour will often lead them to feel overwhelming feelings of shame, regret, powerlessness, anxiety and depression. Often a sex addict will lead a double life and have an immense fear of being caught out.

Excluding other activities

A sex addicts behaviour will become all-consuming to the point that they will lose interest in hobbies or activities they once used to enjoy. They are likely to withdraw from family and loved ones due to their preoccupation with sex and their feelings regarding their compulsive behaviour.

Continuation despite negative consequences

A sex addict will suffer negative consequences as a result of their sexual behaviour. Examples of common negative consequences that a sex addict may suffer include being found out as being unfaithful, contracting an STI or STD, unintentionally falling pregnant, losing a job or a relationship. Despite suffering negative consequences resulting from their sexual behaviour, they will not be able to stop, even if they want to.

Progression of sexual behaviour

Over time a sex addict will find that they need more sex to satisfy their needs or forms of more risky sex. What used to satisfy them will no longer suffice.

They may find themselves excessively watching or engaging in more extreme forms of pornography, having sex more often, committing criminal sexual offences, paying for sex, prostitution or engaging in forms of high-risk sex such as suffocation or strangulation.

Engaging in sex to the point of feeling pain

A sex addict may masturbate so frequently that it becomes painful or have so much sex or types of rough or sadistic sex that they suffer physical pain as a result. Yet this will not stop them from engaging excessively in sexual activity.