Former astronaut's advice on successful flat-sharing

Monday, 18th June 2018, 9:45 am
Updated Monday, 18th June 2018, 11:00 am

A former NASA astronaut has been appointed as a House Share Goodwill ambassador by a flatshare site, to give advice on how to live happily with others in limited space.

The International Space Station is a cramped assortment of corridors, labs and claustrophobic crew quarters. But despite the lack of privacy and personal space in space, astronauts live happily together for months on end.

Down on Earth, however, the harmony in a typical flatshare can be easily unsettled - often triggered by toilet paper, dirty dishes, loud music and milk theft.

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In a bid to help Earth’s flatmates achieve the kind of shared living serenity that comes so easily to astronauts, flatshare site SpareRoom has appointed former NASA astronaut and ISS commander Terry Virts to the unique role of ‘House Share Goodwill Ambassador’

Terry, 50, will draw on his NASA training, extensive experience of living with others in space, and knowledge of astronaut psychology to help British flatmates avoid everyday flatshare conflict and live together in peace and harmony.

Research carried out by SpareRoom revealed a quarter (25%) of flatsharers have had a bust-up over toilet paper, a whopping 69% have seen red after their flatmate hasn’t cleaned up after cooking, and over a third (38%) have fallen-out over accusations of stealing food and drink belonging to other flatmates. What’s more, one in 10 (11%) fall out on a regular basis and 37% have gone as far as actually moving out of their flatshare as a result of everyday cohabiting conflicts.

Matt Hutchinson, director of SpareRoom, said: “We know living with flatmates can be an amazing experience, but we also know it can prove difficult at times. We’re on a mission to help the UK’s millions of flatmates have those great experiences.

"We appointed a former NASA astronaut to be our House Share Goodwill Ambassador so we could learn from the best and be able to help our flatsharers avoid conflict altogether, or navigate their way out of arguments quickly when things get a little tense.Following Terry’s tips means taking small steps, but they can turn into giant leaps for flatmate relations.”

SpareRoom House Share Goodwill Ambassador, Terry Virts, added: “The ISS cost over £100 billion and is arguably one of the most important shared living spaces for the human race. But astronauts are still people - which means conflict will happen sometimes - so knowing how to relate to others and deal with stress is a valuable skill that can make a big difference.

"While the stakes might be higher on a space station than in an apartment, the psychology and training used to ensure astronauts don’t get into arguments can be easily adapted and applied to flatmates. I hope that by passing on some of what I’ve learned from my time in space I can help flatmates across the planet live together in peace and harmony.”

TIP 1- It might sound obvious, but it is important to respect each other’s personal space, as in both space and flatshares, sometimes it can be limited! Make sure you give yourself and others some room to breathe now and then. NASA taught us that mentally stimulating tasks like playing a game or reading a book were a good way of having some solo downtime, so give it a go!

TIP 2- Make sure you help out around the house and do your share of the cleaning. When I was in space we stuck to a strict schedule and cleaned the International Space Station for 2-4 hours every Saturday morning. If you don’t do your share around the house it can cause resentment amongst your flatmates. 76% of flatsharers believe having rules around the house help maintain the peace, so why not start a cleaning rota to ensure everyone pulls their weight.

TIP 3- Don’t take someone else’s food or drink without asking – you should always get permission first and make sure you replace anything you borrow. The key to living, working and thriving in outer space is taking care of your own possessions and respecting other people’s possessions. The same applies in a flatshare. Form good habits, and respect boundaries and all will be well.

TIP 4- Before heading into space for a long-duration, we were taught that crewmembers had to be open with one another and always willing to talk about any feelings of tension or stress. We also had regular private video sessions with a NASA psychologist in which we’d be candid about how we were getting on with our fellow crewmembers. The notion of getting everything out in the open applies to a flatshare just as much as it does a space station. If something is bothering you, make sure you talk about it rather than simmering in silence, or worse, leaving passive aggressive notes for your flatmates to find. From SpareRoom’s research it was found that 65% would happily confront their housemates face-to-face over issues, but it’s important to go about this the right way. Most of all, don’t pick a fight, just be honest and work through things amicably.

TIP 5– Using the toilet in space isn’t a simple case of ‘to boldly go’. They’re an intricate combination of foot straps, pipes that look like elephant trunks and airtight disposable bags, plus it takes time and effort in training to learn how to use them. Even with these complexities in place, we still managed to replace the toilet paper and leave the lavatory in a good state for the next user. This is such a quick and easy thing to do in a flatshare and can prevent conflict.

TIP 6 -While on the subject of the bathroom, be mindful of how much time you spend in the shower and be aware of who is in the queue behind you. On the International Space Station we don’t have baths or showers, so the upside is there’s no waiting in line. But down on Earth, every minute you’re hogging the shower is a minute your flatmates could be late for work.

TIP 7 -One of the benefits of a flatshare is that you often have free choice of who you want to live with. Before space training even starts, astronauts are rigorously put through their paces to check they are compatible with each other in order to avoid any potential conflict when in space. With this in mind, be sure to meet your potential flatmates before moving into the property to see whether you get along.